Men’s struggles
Philip Hammel, Psychologist, PsyD - Primary Therapist
Men are facing real challenges—and they deserve real support.
Many men today are feeling disconnected, unfulfilled, or unsure how to show up in a way that feels meaningful—at work, in relationships, or even with themselves.
You might feel pressure to be a dependable provider, yet also long for deeper fulfillment in your work.
You want to be present and emotionally available to your partner or children—but aren’t always sure how.
You may feel isolated, unsupported, or like your inner world isn’t something you were ever taught to talk about.
These struggles don’t mean something is wrong with you.
They mean you’re human—and you’re not alone.
Here’s what men I work with often say to themselves:
“I want to be a better version of myself, especially for the people I care about, but I don’t know how or where to start.”
“I don’t know how to respond to my partner’s or child’s emotions without getting upset.”
“I have the house, the family, the career. Did everything I was told to do. So why do I feel so unfulfilled, bored, or directionless? Is this all there is to life?”
You might be in your 20s, 30s, or 40s—married, single, a father, or not.
You may be in a professional role, working in medicine, law, sales, tech, mental health—or a skilled trade.
But no matter your background, you may be feeling:
Unseen or undervalued
Disconnected from friends or yourself
Like you’re failing the people around you
Prone to withdrawal or numbing behaviors (social media, gambling, pornography, video games)
Quick to anger or easily overwhelmed
These emotional patterns often go unspoken. But they weigh heavy—especially at night.
You may lie awake worrying about finances, performance at work, your health, the future of your relationships, or whether you’ll ever feel proud of who you are.
So what do men want, deep down?
Peace of mind.
To go to bed with less unrest and wake with a sense of direction.
To feel content, balanced, and confident—as a provider, communicator, leader, and role model.
With support, these things are within reach
Therapy can help you:
Resolve conflict with greater confidence
Understand your emotions, values, and needs
Align your actions with your beliefs
Advocate for yourself at work
Reconnect with passions and people
Rebuild resilience in your relationships
When these issues go unaddressed, the costs can be high.
Avoidance and isolation can drain your self-esteem, your energy, and even your physical health.
Ineffective coping strategies tend to increase. So does a feeling of being stuck—and alone.
For many men, the turning point comes when a partner, friend, or family member urges them to seek help.
Others realize they’ve been carrying heavy emotions for too long—numbness, fear, even passive suicidal thoughts—and know it’s time to talk to someone.
Some experience a moment with a child or loved one that brings up shame or sadness—and sparks a desire to grow.
In our work together, I use a blend of:
The Socratic method – to foster insight and direction through shared curiosity
ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) – to cultivate self-awareness and flexibility
Attachment/Family-of-Origin dynamics – to explore past relational patterns
Narrative/Sociological perspectives – to understand societal influences and re-author your story
Empathic directness – to challenge with care, and support with clarity
While I work with women too, I have a special passion for supporting men who are learning how to show up for themselves and their loved ones in a new way—through connection, empowerment, and deeper alignment between values and actions.
If you're ready to take that step, I'm here to walk with you.
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Philip Hammel, Psychologist, PsyD
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Therapy for adults navigating relationships, career fulfillment, parenting, life transitions, grief, and personal empowerment.
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